“Bullying is an unwanted, aggressive behaviour that involves real or perceived power imbalance.” — Therapist Kasia Ciszewska
Kasia Ciszewska of The Counselling Place shares how to support children who face bullying in school.
Bullying is a common experience these days and can come in the form of physical assaults, verbal harassment, threats or social ostracising. This intentional and repeated act can cause harmful and long lasting consequences for the victim. So how can you help children who are bullied?
1. Lend a Listening Ear
Put your own feelings aside, listen carefully and empathise. Instead of getting angry, upset, making comments or passing judgement, reassure children that what they are experiencing is not their fault. Acknowledge their courage and let them know how glad you are that they confided in you.
2. Take Thoughtful Actions
Don’t exclude children from deciding how to tackle the matter or do anything behind their backs. Instead, prepare yourself prior to contacting the school, the other parents or other authorities, and gather as much information as you can. Avoid accusing anyone and work together with the school to find a suitable solution to the problem.
3. Treat it Seriously
Underestimating or dismissing the problem teaches children that there is something wrong with them, and that bullying should be tolerated. Refrain also from telling children to hit back, as violence is not the solution. Additionally, if they are unable to hit back, it can make them feel like they’ve disappointed you as well.
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