By Finder blogger: Andrea McKenna
It’s the day after Mother’s Day and I have a headache. It was well-earned, having shared some duty-free champagne from Changi Airport and Din Tai Fung takeout with a few friends while my husband is out of town.
Ah, Mother’s Day, the day when everyone shares their yearly admiration for all things Mom, including those that are mothers to animals and people other than actual kids. Fathers who do mothering tasks even got some credit for Mother’s Day. Taking mothering even further away from having kids, I saw a Facebook post about those women who birth ideas as being honored on Mother’s Day. More champagne for that, I say!
People I know here in Singapore celebrated Mother’s Day at the tried and true champagne brunch at various hotels around town, hit the spas or enjoyed homemade meals by their family. It’s a great day to celebrate our accomplishments with our kids (or pets or ideas). But it’s not always happy for everyone.
Mother’s Day can be a day of mourning for women and men alike as they are reminded of loss. Sometimes it is that they miss their own mothers who have passed away. Other women have deeper loss, as in the loss of a baby due to miscarriage, which is frightfully common and not often discussed. I know for myself that while I feel great joy in watching my little girl play with her friends, I still get a pang of longing for baby #2 who never made it into the world. So even though it is a mostly happy day, we must keep in mind the idea of “being a mother” can be painful as well.
Singapore’s Prime Minister, Lee Hsien Loong, lauded mothers as “pillars of our families, with one of the toughest jobs of all,” according to his Mother’s Day Facebook post. He acknowledged how mothers’ roles have changed to not only include raising children but taking care of the elderly and building careers:
“Happy Mother’s Day to all mums and mums-to-be!
Mothers are the pillars of our families, with one of the toughest jobs of all. Nowadays they raise children, build careers, care for elderly parents, or even become the sole parent in a family. While their roles and responsibilities have evolved, mothers’ unconditional love and support remain strong and steadfast.
Let’s celebrate our mothers’ contributions as leaders, caregivers, providers, and role models. Take time today, and everyday, to show your mum how much she means to you! – LHL”
This is great advice from our leader to make sure mothers know how important they are to us at all times of the year, not just on one Sunday in May. Anyways, I hope you’ve all recovered from your celebrations. For me, next time maybe I’ll appreciate being a mother with a little less champagne!
About Andrea McKenna
image: E. Chiau
Andrea McKenna Brankin is journalist and author from the United States who lives a full life with bipolar disorder. Her book, Bipolar Phoenix, is awaiting a publishing contract. She is also currently a volunteer at the DaySpring Residential Treatment Centre for teen girls in Singapore, providing befriending-family support, therapeutic writing and rugby coaching.