By Finder blogger: Andrea McKenna
If you have children, do you spoil them at Christmas? I know I do!
I don’t read parenting websites or articles or any of that. I parent on a gut-instinct kind of thing and it works for me.
And I believe Christmas is exactly the time of year to give your kids fun gifts, gifts they need, gifts they want and any other unnecessary gifts in between.
I’m sure not everyone agrees with that, especially the Super Nanny from TV.
But I don’t care. Here’s why: I have an only child.
I was blessed enough to have my one child at age 41. We tried for the ever-expected #2 but the universe or God or the fertility specialist or whatever did not come through.
Regardless, we are so happy with our one golden child, a little girl.
Giving gifts to her does not make up for not delivering a baby sister or brother–of course not. But it makes me happy to see her excitement and since she often plays alone at home it gives her something to keep her occupied.
Now, I said that I don’t read parenting articles or websites but I did look this topic up! And the experts say this method I use may teach kids that material goods equal love. It may also teach them that material goods equal happiness.
A 2011 article from the British magazine, Psychologies, says gifting excessive gifts may not allow the child to learn the value and symbolism of giving, as opposed to receiving all the time. The article also states that not giving in to a child’s every wish for a gift is better for them, especially as some are just passing desires that will be easily and quickly forgotten.
Ok, so maybe I’m a bad parent.
But I know I’m not alone. I found the opposite viewpoint expressed in a blog by a parent who sounded a lot like me!
Her family spoiled the kids at Christmas in the 70s and 80s, even though they may have been on a budget, because it was the time of year to do it. Yay!
The writer, an older Mom like me, also said she was so happy to have her little toddler that she didn’t care about spoiling her. The time for a minimalistic Christmas was not now or possibly ever because she was so happy to be a Mommy and share the excitement, joy and giving spirit of Christmas.
I have to say I agree with this and am going with this angle for the holiday season. I want my girl to enjoy Santa and chocolates and singing Christmas carols and opening gifts.
There are plenty other months out of the year to teach gratitude, humbleness and how important it is to work hard to get what you want.
Until then, Merry Christmas to all and enjoy the giving season!
About Andrea McKenna
Andrea McKenna Brankin is journalist and author from the United States who lives a full life with bipolar disorder. Her book, Bipolar Phoenix, is awaiting a publishing contract. She is also currently a volunteer at the DaySpring Residential Treatment Centre for teen girls in Singapore, providing befriending-family support, therapeutic writing and rugby coaching.